From Negative to Positive

Sometime we will feel blue and depress. It is like a seasonal mood. Hence we should transform these negative feeling into something happy. After browsing through the net and getting the info from some radio specialist, I found these five ways :

1. Stop predicting the worst. 
If something that doesn't come in our way, don't catastrophising the disaster scenario. Every mole is a sign of cancer, every headache is because of brain tumour. We are not a fortune teller, you don't predict things and these negative thoughts will not help us in anything. So try defeat those bad thought by thinking something better.

2. Stop minus the good.
When people compliment us, take it and enjoy the flattening. Even thought we know that they are only saying this to please us or they don't mean it, it really doesn't matter. We should just focus on the good part.

3. Stop mind reading especially when we're stuck with negative thought.
Sometime we will felt like other people think that we are dumb even thought they say nice thing about us. This is negative energy that blocks positive thoughts. No one knows what others are thing about. We should not only listen to what they say but also see their body language, do they really think that we are dumb? Do they really hate us? It's a doubt. If you ask them what they really think, believe them. Release those negative energy and try accept those positive thought instead.

4. When bad things happen accept it with an open heart.
Bad things only happen temporary if we can get through it. Al thought sometime things cannot turn out to be like what we wanted;  at least it's over and we should start from there and get over it. Every time something goods happen, make it a reason that good things happen because the bad things which happen before brings it. For example when our loved one died and later when something good happen, we should thank the loved one for bringing it to us.

5. Don't take everything too personally.

Sometimes we always feel like we give more than what we receive but sometime this is not true. Most of the people also have their own hardship and challenges. To my knowledge, my friend do not give me virus on purpose and whoever did it probably has no idea that their PC was infected with virus. Sometime bad things just happen. If we take things personally it will just leads to accusing and useless thought and emotions. 

With all the information I gave above I hope now you can learn to "POW WOW" all the bad. Don't forget to appreciate those who give you a free compliment and  give at least a smile to those who u meet because that might be the only good thing that they receive today. =)


Happy Sunday!


XoXoX
Venie

From Whale to Mermaid ..... Yet!!

Recently I had read Coffee girl's blog regarding a post written by Ms Delphine Fieberg

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  A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?" The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:

"Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great t...enderness. They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia. They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist. But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish? They would have no sex life and could not bear children. Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad. And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I'd rather be a whale. At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends. We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn't enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.

We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated. Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: "How amazing am I ?! " 

* Image of French Model Tara Flynn*  courtesy of French Elle mag.

~ Delphine Fieberg ~ 

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This post reminds me of how I look at myself after I gave birth to Lil Bryan. A whale exactly! I've put on 20KG and every time I met an old friend they will remind me of how BIG I have turn into. Later I becoming more  and more depress not only because of how BIG my friend always remind me of but also because of all the beautiful dresses and shoes that I had missed. 


One day when I returned to my mother's home I found some old albums. Some of them had the picture of my mother when she was young, beautiful and slim. Then there was an album of her married to my dad and they have me. Then there is my sisters and brothers. The more sibling I had the bigger my mother became. However few years ago she begins to slim down again, most probably is because all of her children had finally become a grown up and she had no burden any more. When I see these pictures, I thought to myself will I become like my mother too? No..... It would be a nightmare!

I know why I am FAT! The shampoo I use is for extra volume and body. I'm gonna start using some dish liquid to dissolves those fats :)

Luckily, later my hubby decide to move and those moving helped me to burn about 15KG of Fats. I am so glad because I get to wear most of those dress and eat my favourite junkies sometimes. For those who call me big when seen I've slim down and will keep asking abt how I diet. I will always reply them "Because I have no money to buy food, that's why I have nothing to eat and will you loan me some?" Sometime I'll say : " Try use superglue to seal the mouth la..." For those who haven't see me for a very very long time will still say I am fat but hey, I don't care any more 'cos I get these fats from my two beautiful kids and I like What I am now ~ Not a whale, not a mermaid but just me! =)

Today's weight loss tips: If you fatten up everyone else around you, then you will look thinner ;)

p/s: I don't have the skinniest waist but I do have the biggest heart to love you with...!!! <3

Raising the tone of the neighbourhood

In Brunei, usually we'll see these kind of driver around Hot Spot especially around places like Coffee Bean where a lot people are sitting outside and enjoying their drinks. Well, we know these drivers are seeking for attention... ya ya, some of them are not looking for attention. They just love the music and they only want to share it out. Duhh!! That's why we sometime suspect they work in a Music Shop. 

I've seen some of them purposely put the Sub-Woofer outside the car to creates noise pollution. And when they pass by,  those car parking at the parking lot will start to moan and swearing with their alarm systematic voice.   

Yes, this is a warning to those parents who try to start their kid's car and for those  who have heart attack, pls don risk it.

The most annoying of them all is those irresponsible dad who turn on the music so loud with their kids inside the car with them. Hey, This is NOT COOL!!! =(

Ries Against Ovarian Cancer

The picture of Ries hand taking her first chemo...

Few days ago I got a bad news from a friend that Ries got ovarian cancer - 1st stage. It was so shock and surprising as she is always very healthy and young too. But then I know that cancer don't choose age and they don pick people. I am very impress with Ries because she is such a strong girl and try to handle and fight the cancer all by herself. As for her friends and family, all we can do is to give her moral support. Each and everyday most of her friends will flood her FB wall with inspiration words and quotes and tell her that we really care about her and we hope that she will never give up no matter what! 

All I can say is :
 Ries! Gambateh! Don let the evil OC monster win! I want to see you K.O the OC monster real hard!!!

Dear Readers:

If you are reading this please TEAL = Tell Every Amazing Lady of Ovarian Cancer.

Some fact about Ovarian Cancer :
http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/physical_health/conditions/in_depth/cancer/ovarian_cancer.shtml

Survivor profiles :
http://youngadultcancer.ca/community/profiles/category/ovarian_cancer?gclid=CNKqwoTk4KsCFQUb6wodCnlgPg

THE CANCER CHANT, I WILL RANT.
A poem contributed by a visitor of Healing Cancer Naturally

Cancer I did not give you the right,
To invade my body and take a bite.
This is my body and with all my might,
I will prevail with one hell of a fight.
To the cancer inside, I will battle and kill.
For that is my body's God given will.
To my cancer, these words I do send.
Your life is short and near the end.
(For Lucy & all those fighting cancer)
J Joens, 10/13/05

My Handsome Little Fire-fighter

Whenever I need a fresh perspective in life, I listen to a child...

Reminds me to see the world with innocence and grace, and replace the value in ordinary. ~<3